How to Give Feedback

Croissant SandwichHere’s how to communicate a piece of feedback about something personal, such as the off-color jokes your partner told at the office party, or the short skirt your daughter wants to wear to her new waitressing job, or the thank you note that your ten year old still has not written to his grandma.

First tell the person you have some brief feedback to share and ask if they’d be open to hearing it.

Then ask them when a good time would be for the two of you to talk in private. This part is really important — embarrassment definitely interferes with trust and open communication.

Serve up a feedback sandwich:

compliment
brief feedback in an I-message
invite them to share their response
acknowledge their perspective
compliment/good wishes

Here’s how it can sound:

I think it’s terrific that you got a job!
I’m concerned that you might receive some
uncomfortable attention from customers if
you wear that skirt to the restaurant.
What do you think about that?
Sounds like you want to wear it today
and see how it goes so you can make
an informed decision next time.
Thanks for listening, and I hope
your shift goes great today!

And of course feedback sandwiches should always be garnished with a big helping of respect for the other person’s right to do with it as they wish.

Hope this helps!

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How to Avoid Painful Misunderstandings

He says: Are you sure you want dessert?Chocolate Cake Slice with Raspberries
She hears:  Haven’t you had enough? You should eat less.

He meant:  If we leave right now maybe I can still catch the last quarter of the big game on TV.

When our feelings get hurt while communicating with loved ones, we are typically reacting to what we think the other person meant rather than to what he or she actually said.

However, since meanings are frightfully easy to misinterpret (and most of us are not very good mind-readers), the next time you start to feel angry, defensive, or hurt by something someone has said to you, try responding like this:

I’m not sure what you mean by that…

in as gentle and neutral of a tone as you can.

By putting your reaction on hold until you are clear about the other person’s true intention, you’ll be able to derail unnecessary conflicts before they drain time, love, and energy from your relationship.

How to Avoid Painful Misunderstandings2016-11-23T09:38:49-07:00

Don’t Make This Mistake When Customers Contact You

This tip might seem ridiculously simple, but you’d be shocked at how often it doesn’t happen.Hand Holding Telephone Receiver

Make time in your schedule every single weekday to return phone calls and respond to emails from current and prospective customers. If you are not sure where to start, you may want to look at cloud contact center solutions to see if they fit in with your business plan.

Even better, schedule TWO times to do this each day, one just before lunch for messages received in the morning, and one just before close of business for messages that come in during the afternoon. With a sophisticated phone and messaging system for your business, making calls, communicating, and doing business with the outside world can be streamlined and optimized; with solutions from EATEL (view site), this could be implemented in your business.

Responding very promptly, even if all you do is acknowledge that their communication was received, sends a powerful message: I value your business and I am here to help.

Most businesses are now on social media, meaning that they have even more platforms to check. This is, unfortunately, just a part of the business. You have to make time to respond to your customers, especially if you want them to keep coming back to your company. You can receive messages from all social media platforms, so you need to check these daily. Some platforms allow you to reply to the messages on a computer, not a phone, this is much more efficient for offices. Businesses using Instagram will be glad to know that they can now reply to instagram messages online. This means that you can respond much quicker, through using your computer or laptop. Ensure that all messages are acknowledged.

If you need additional time to gather information or research your response, I recommend closing the communication loop at the end of the day with something like: I am working on your request, and will get back to you tomorrow with the answer to your question.

Don’t Make This Mistake When Customers Contact You2016-11-23T09:38:49-07:00

Scorekeeping Belongs in Sports, Not Relationships

Football ScoreboardThe idea you owe me causes a great deal of suffering and conflict in relationships. Obligation is never a satisfying motivation, whether you are on the giving end or the receiving end of the resulting action.

Our minds often keep score in our relationships, and then try to guilt ourselves or others into keeping the tally even.

But our hearts simply want to give, and hold no expectation of reciprocity.

Try conducting yourself as if no one owes you anything, and see how your relationships change.

Even after all this time
The sun never says to the earth,
“You owe Me.”

Look what happens with
A love like that,
It lights the Whole Sky.

– from The Gift – Poems by Hafiz by Daniel Ladinsky

Scorekeeping Belongs in Sports, Not Relationships2016-11-23T09:38:49-07:00

Don’t Make This Mistake in a High Conflict Joint Custody Situation

MP900387517In high conflict joint custody situations, the less you need to negotiate with your ex, the better. So do your best to honor the parenting time schedule exactly as it was outlined in your written agreement.

If something comes up that requires you to be away from home during your parenting time, don’t try to negotiate a change in the parenting schedule. Instead ask a family member or friend to care for your child, or hire a beloved babysitter.

You can avoid a lot of stress and conflict by refraining from asking your ex to be flexible in order to accommodate your needs. Divorce proceedings can take its toll on all parties involved, especially the children, they see and hear more than the parents believe them to. Going through this doesn’t have to be a pull and push scenario by anyone, showing children that they are the number one priority in all of this and their welfare is put right at the front of all of this can help them get through it with you. Check out Https://denbighlaw.com/child-support-custody/child-support-custody-attorneys to read up on the information about child custody and support to see what you could do to help your child, and how the divorce matters will unfold with the steps you take. If you are going through a divorce and are looking for an attorney to represent you then you might want to contact Rees Law Firm, who specialise in Family Law Jonesboro AR. You want to make sure you are well represented so that both your and your children’s best interests are met.

Don’t Make This Mistake in a High Conflict Joint Custody Situation2016-11-23T09:38:49-07:00