mirror, mirror

I just wrote this to a friend who has a big decision to make, in response to her request for suggestions or strategies to help achieve clarity. As I proofread it, I had the uncanny sense that I was writing it to myself, and decided to save it for future reference.

hello my dear friend-

I'm so glad you are taking some time for yourself tomorrow.

Perhaps the first priority is not to actually answer any questions or make any decisions, but to soothe and silence the clamoring of the mind that makes it hard to hear your inner guidance.

I suspect that once you are back in touch with your center and your heart, you will find perspective and clarity waiting for you there. It may not come as specific answers. It might not say Yes, do this or No, don't. (Or it might!)

But I suspect your heart will contextualize the questions into a greater perspective. It will probably tell you that you are Loved no matter what, that these decisions are secondary to the truth of Love itself. It will tell you that it will always be there for you, no matter what you decide.

If I was feeling anxiety about a decision like this, I would most likely not respond well to pressure or deadlines. Before clarity could feel safe coming to me, it might need some reassurance that I will give myself all the time I need to come to a decision that I feel truly, deeply okay with.

I may need to clear some space and time for that to emerge. I may need to postpone making plans or taking action until I can once again hear and honor my inner guidance.

Perhaps what you are going through right now is not simply about this one decision. Maybe it's also about re-wiring the way your heart and mind relate to each other; an opportunity to lay new internal groundwork to help you resolve inner conflict.

This is important work, and worth doing however long it takes. If you choose to move forward, it is the best possible foundation to base a relationship upon. If not, it will nevertheless support you beautifully in every future endeavor you undertake.

It might also be about creating a well worn path to your true center in the forest of Highly Opinionated People -- about hearing the gift of their doubts not as a warning, but as a spotlight that brings your attention to parts of you that are seeking it.

It's not that you must necessarily let those parts rule your life, but they do want to be acknowledged as valuable contributors to your Wholeness, and they want to be heard.

Good luck, my friend. None of this has shaken my faith that All is Well with you, and always will be.

:)