on defense

The more you defend yourself, the more you believe what you defend against. - Alan Cohen

So what's the alternative to defending yourself?

Let it be.

Take the input of the other party and go inside yourself. Consider what they have presented with an open mind. Capitalize on the opportunity to examine and clarify your own position, stance, or decision. If you need to update yourself, or to gather more information, or change your mind based on this new input, then do it.

There's no need to convince others to see it your way, unless you both enjoy that kind of banter and debate. Just let them be. They have given you a gift by disagreeing with you or presenting an opposing viewpoint. Something new will emerge at the intersection of your perspective and theirs. Watch for it, and turn your attention to nurturing the seedlings of creativity and clarity that sprout within every conflict of opinion.


On another note, here's a pic from my son's graduation from boot camp. It's been fantastic to have him home. Next week he reports for duty in Michigan.